When your self-esteem is broken down following challenges in life, it is possible that this could lead to anxiety and depression. Low self-esteem has come from traumas and other serious challenges. They can dampen your mood, make you feel worthless, unhappy, and possibly even hopeless. This hopeless feeling is unnerving darkness and emptiness.
Low self-esteem has been influenced by challenges such as emotional and physical abuse, losing someone you love, living with a narcissist or working with one, retrenchment/s, failing in school or university, negative performance reviews, or coming under attack by others, even those we love. These examples are just a selection, and there could be more.
It is very difficult for you to progress in life when such thoughts and feelings are your main focus. The pain of past experiences empowers the thoughts and emotions. Your energy then deteriorates. With less energy, it is harder to deal with your issues.
The fact of the matter is that you store your emotions and the more you do this, the more they build up, only fuelling disaster. It can affect almost every part of your life when your self-esteem is diminished.
You withdraw from people and sleep too often as this is the only time you find peace of mind. However, what you don’t know is that your subconscious mind is working 24/7 and your mind continues working. This is the reason you wake up thinking.
To explain further: you have 6,000 to 7,000 thoughts per day and it is your responsibility to have conscious awareness in order to monitor your thoughts regularly. Many of them are based on the same thoughts as the day before. They include telling yourself, you are not good enough, or intelligent enough, not pretty enough, not worthy, you are a failure, and so on. You cannot change your life when your thoughts remain the same from day today.
Here are 6 easy steps to shift your self-esteem:
- Pay attention to your thoughts and your emotions as they will tell you, how you feel about yourself;
- Write down both the positive and the negative thoughts you have;
- Check each one to see if these beliefs are true or not. Check if they are factual or logical and remember that not everything is as it seems. Find where you have been good enough, intelligent enough, pretty enough, and so on. They are definitely there;
- Can you change the story you tell yourself, about yourself? Can you change your perception of who and what you choose to be? And ask yourself if these beliefs are still relevant and if they still matter;
- If so, write down the new story and ensure there are no other limiting beliefs stopping you from believing this. Writing them down with good supporting emotions assists you in programming your subconscious mind with what you choose to believe;
- Tell yourself this new story by writing it, every day for the next 21 to 30 days to change who you believe you are;
You can boost this process in nine to ten sessions with me and feel the benefit already after the first four to five sessions. No longer do you have to have a low-self-esteem and withdraw from life due to depression and anxiety. Instead, you can understand the power of your mind, have a higher awareness of your thoughts, peace of mind, be happier, and have the tools to help you to stop allowing the external environment to affect you. Book your one free session with me now and transform your life.
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