Communication is the cornerstone of human connection and understanding and as a Life Coach in Johannesburg, I can help you to open yourself up to communication. Lack of communication causes breakdowns in relationships, anger, depression, anxiety and other emotions that don’t make us feel good.

Communication goes beyond mere words; it encompasses the art of truly listening, empathizing, and expressing oneself.  It releases energy that might otherwise be held and suppressed in the body.  By holding it in the body, builds up the feelings mentioned above which only bring on unwanted negative emotions.

Due to the old belief that ‘children must be seen and not heard’ I internally suppressed what I needed to say.  And I learned quickly to compress what to say and point out just facts in the shortest possible way.  Over time, this became an obstacle, but in another way served as an advantage in other ways. To express yourself fully, an open heart is imperative.  And I had to let go of the belief that I had been carrying from childhood, that ‘children must be seen and not heard’, through using our phenomenal techniques.

How to express yourself for success, in 8 easy-to-use steps:

  1. Cultivate Self-Awareness: Before you can effectively communicate with others, it’s crucial to understand your own thoughts and emotions. Take time for self-reflection to identify your feelings and thoughts. This self-awareness will not only help you express yourself more authentically but also enable you to navigate conversations with greater clarity, and improved relationships.
  2. Practice Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. It forms the foundation of meaningful communication. When engaging with others, strive to put yourself in their shoes. Listen actively, ask open-ended questions, and show genuine interest in their perspective. This creates an atmosphere of trust and openness.
  3. Open Your Heart: Expressing your feelings requires vulnerability. Be willing to open your heart and share your thoughts and emotions honestly. Avoid bottling up your feelings, as this can lead to misunderstandings and strained relationships. Sharing your authentic self fosters a deeper connection with others.
  4. Active Listening: Communication is a two-way street, with listening being just as important as speaking. Practice active listening by giving your full attention, making eye contact, and avoiding distractions. Suspend your own judgments and preconceived notions to truly understand the message the other person is conveying.
  5. Listen for Understanding, Not Just Responding: Often, we listen intending to formulate a response rather than truly understanding the speaker. Make a conscious effort to listen for comprehension rather than preparing your reply. This ensures that you grasp the full depth of the message and respond more thoughtfully.
  6. Mindful Communication: Mindfulness involves being fully present in the moment without judgment. Apply mindfulness to your communication by staying focused on the conversation at hand. Clear your mind of distractions and preoccupations, allowing you to engage more meaningfully with the person you are communicating with.
  7. Pause and Reflect: Before responding to a statement or question, take a moment to pause and reflect. This brief moment of contemplation allows you to respond thoughtfully rather than reacting impulsively. It promotes more effective communication by avoiding misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts.
  8. Stop Thinking While Someone is Talking: Often, our minds are racing with thoughts and judgments while someone is speaking. Challenge yourself to quiet the internal chatter and fully immerse yourself in the speaker’s words. This demonstrates respect and helps you grasp the nuances of their message.


In a world where communication is the key to progress and understanding, embracing these steps can pave the way for more authentic connections and smoother interactions.

By opening your heart, expressing your feelings genuinely, and actively listening, you contribute to a culture of empathy and collaboration. If however, you find it difficult to do so, contact your Life Coach in Johannesburg now to improve your communication skills. Thus allowing you to have valuable, meaningful, and purposeful relationships. Remember, effective communication is not just about words; it’s about creating a space where hearts and minds can truly connect.

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