Egos, or what is also known as imposter syndrome, is hyped up as people all over the world talk about Andy Byron and Kristen Cabot, who were busted at the Coldplay concert. The consequences are severe for all those involved, from family and friends to colleagues, leaving a trail of destruction.
There is good and bad that comes from any situation. The honeymoon phase is exciting for those having affairs — until they get caught. That’s when reality hits. Can the relationship survive the drama that will unfold for Andy Byron and Kristen Cabot, especially under such destructive consequences?
Why should there be an affair in the first place? Why not tell the person you are married to that the relationship has come to an end? Why hold these secrets? Secrets are heavy and cause more destruction than one can even imagine. As we have seen, the truth will ultimately come to light. The truth will be revealed.
My mother and her siblings came from a relationship that started as an affair. Seven beautiful children were born from that relationship. I’m positive this is not the only destructive — but also, in some cases, successful story. Some relationships born from affairs do last and are truly meant to be.
Affairs can, in some cases, stem from intentions rooted in love rather than:
- Ego (imposter syndrome) – the bigger the ego, the bigger the consequences
- Revenge
- An easy way out
- The desire for fun without considering those who might be hurt
When an affair stems from one of the above intentions, karma will be on it’s way for those who with ill intentions.
However, there are those who, because of the above reasons and others, cause truly heartbreaking effects for the ones who were betrayed, lied to, deceived, and manipulated. I have been on the receiving end of more than one affair.
The hurt was massive and led to many beliefs and emotional wounds, such as:
- I am not worthy
- I am not good enough
- Various inner insecurities
- Rejection (find out more here about rejection)
- Abandonment
- Loneliness
- Fears of the future
Regardless, the damage is destructive. Yet, on a positive note, it also brings truth to a relationship when one partner is having an affair.
If you are the victim of an affair and are experiencing heartbreak, while the ego mind or imposter syndrome is racing — causing overthinking due to the hurt and pain, then contact me today for one free session. With my personal experience of surviving multiple affairs and the trails of destruction they left behind, I can help you discover yourself, raise your self-esteem, and support you in becoming more proactive rather than reactive.